tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28765366.post896000692742838638..comments2024-03-29T02:41:52.718-07:00Comments on Seattle Schools Community Forum: Kids and the Ability to Create FilmsMelissa Westbrookhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17179994245880629080noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28765366.post-58752579643112208702013-04-09T12:44:36.530-07:002013-04-09T12:44:36.530-07:00I didn’t read Dan’s piece, other than what you pos...I didn’t read Dan’s piece, other than what you posted here, Melissa, but I’m betting he did a great job. <br /><br />I just wanted to say that this sort of thing is not at all limited to video taping. I don’t look at my son’s Facebook or Twitter (if he has one) or Instagram accounts, but I hear from friends, especially parents of girls, that kids - their own, good kids - are posting seriously licentious and offensive stuff there. <br /><br />I’ve been pretty out of it, pretty blase, but now I’m finally being convinced of the gravity of the issue. <br /><br />But I can't blame the kids or think they’re “bad” for doing these things. I feel sorry for them, actually. Much of the same sort of talk and gross behavior was going on when I was a teen, but we had to do everything face-to-face, in the tangible world, and then, other than your standard issue malicious rumor, it all went into the ethers. <br /><br />It’s, frankly, deeply unfair to require of our kids such meticulous self-censorship. It’s wrong that their every move and mistake is now archived and shareable. <br /><br />Of course we’ve got to teach teens about reality, but, the truth is, it's the responsibility of the adults in the room (especially in the boardroom) to find a way to give our kids their rightful privacy.<br /><br />You know, shame on us.Miss Waterlownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28765366.post-3165307707989624392013-04-07T20:45:36.141-07:002013-04-07T20:45:36.141-07:00Melissa sez:
"I would also say that the most...Melissa sez:<br /><br /><i>"I would also say that the most important thing for teens of both sexes to know is that no means no."</i><br /><br />I agree heartily, and I'd strengthen that to say, only yes means yes. Maybe even, only "yes, yes, Oh GOD YES" means yes. Otherwise no. It seems obvious, but some of the kids in that awful Steubenville case protested that "she never said no" -- because, of course, she was unconscious. One might hope that it wouldn't need saying, but geez-o-pete, ONLY YES MEANS YES.Josh Hayeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17242600011474990770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28765366.post-38167401393254398692013-04-07T16:07:05.369-07:002013-04-07T16:07:05.369-07:00What people in their late 20s really need recordin...What people in their late 20s really need recordings to remember their early sex experiences?<br /><br />The very existence of these recordings is prime blackmail material. Even if you're on great terms now, what if that stops being the case? Or what if some accident happens to the ex and leaves the ex in a coma and their family/executor is cleaning out their belongings and thinks it's worth a complaint to the FBI?Patrickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16260807460417787614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28765366.post-71192439065853913252013-04-07T12:21:32.194-07:002013-04-07T12:21:32.194-07:00Sorta freaked, you should be sorta freaked. My tak...Sorta freaked, you should be sorta freaked. My take from reading countless articles is that it is starting fairly young (and that most kids don't think oral sex is "sex"). <br />My thread Boys and Girls; Part One details one of these issues.<br /><br />I urge you to do some research or ask your pediatrician about this issue.<br /><br />I would also say that the most important thing for teens of both sexes to know is that no means no.Melissa Westbrookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17179994245880629080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28765366.post-4428770526682451712013-04-07T11:30:46.953-07:002013-04-07T11:30:46.953-07:00Like many things, kids should wait until they are ...Like many things, kids should wait until they are adults to film or photograph themselves or others naked or having sex. What I want to know as parent of a sixth grader, are these kids sexually active and how exactly do they have sex? I don't want to get graphic here, but I hear talk of oral sex and hand sex and frankly I haven't heard of an STD you can get from a hand so I'm talking to my child about keeping it to that level, and no cameras.<br /><br />sorta freakedAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28765366.post-66191728921207413282013-04-06T23:24:31.613-07:002013-04-06T23:24:31.613-07:00N, there is a case (if you believe what the FBI pe...N, there is a case (if you believe what the FBI person said). Doesn't matter if they were underaged and consenting when it happened (both to the act and the filming). It's child porn.<br /><br />And, if he copied and distributed (even just to his partner), it's a crime. <br /><br />That's the point that kids need to get.Melissa Westbrookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588239576000641336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-28765366.post-60236041840582554242013-04-06T18:20:08.817-07:002013-04-06T18:20:08.817-07:00I wonder if as an adult he did burn a DVD and then...I wonder if as an adult he did burn a DVD and then sent it to her he could be convicted of distributing child porn? He could be creating a case where there isn't one currently... <br /><br />Just thinking . . .<br /><br />nnoreply@blogger.com